Tips for Using Websites to Meet New People and Find Relationships

• Develop a profile which is honest but accentuates your best qualities.
  For example instead of just listing your profession explain what you like about it.
  Remember there is a sales or promotional aspect to online dating so use humor and show your friendliest side.
• Avoid reaching out to people who only describe the positive aspects of themselves: you want an idea of what they are really like.
• Pictures: May or may not be that accurate. You can ask if the picture is recent in an email.
• Stay with your own interests i.e. if you are an indoor activity person do not reach out to someone who describes all of their “outdoor” activities.
• Keep you expectations low until you actually meet the person.
• You will usually need to meet lots of people (5-10) to find one person who works for you.

Types of Meeting People Websites

Look for sites which match you automatically with people:

• Eliminate some of the work.
• Help you get past the “basics” with some people.
• Still may have inaccuracies in how people portray themselves.
• Help get you started.

Sites: Where You Pick People to Contact After You Have Seen Their Profile

• You may have to go through more profiles.
• Sometimes yield the same results as sites where you are automatically matched.
• Can offer positive results if you are willing to put in a lot of time reviewing sites.

First Meetings

• Coffee shop meetings or a simple walk are good activities.
• Do not over commit yourself in terms of time: 45 minutes is about right.
• If you like someone during a coffee date then try to let them know that but you can also contact them later.
• Try to convey who you are instead of being overly pleasing.
• Try to enjoy yourself and allow for pauses in the conversation.