Am I Ready For A Committed Relationship?

What Makes It So Hard for Some People to Make a Commitment in a Relationship?

It is because some people have fear about commitment. These are some of the common fears of committing:

Fear of losing control over one’s self or one’s life.
Fear of betrayal by another person.
Fear of being vulnerable and dependent upon one’s partner or fear of a partner being dependent on you.
Fear of losing one’s financial resources.
Fear of divorce.
Fear of being a victim of abuse.

You should be able to answer yes to most of the statements below in order to be ready for a true commitment:

I am ready and able to give up my identity as a single person.
I have been emotionally stable for at least six months.
I feel I am ready to put my relationship needs ahead of my personal needs when necessary.
I am ready to decrease my ties to my immediate family and put this energy into my relationship.
I am able to keep my work from interfering with my relationship.
I feel ready to merge my life with someone else.
I have been monogamous sexually and emotionally for at least the past six months and I am commited to staying monogamous.

When things get hard with my partner I feel I can commit to talking about the disagreement even if I am uncomfortable.
I can commit to talking about my feelings and continuing to talk about problems until the conflict is thoroughly worked through or a compromise is reached.

In choosing a partner you should be able to say yes to almost all of the statements below:

She or he wants a commitment with me.
She or he has been stable emotionally for at least six months.
She or he is available and has the time to make our relationship healthy.
She or he is willing to talk through a disagreement.
She or he can put relationship needs ahead of personal needs when necessary.
I feel cared for and comfortable with my partner.
My partner has been sexually and emotionally monogamous for the past six months.
My partner’s values match mine fairly well.
My partner and I are most often in agreement in how to spend time and money.